Get the Experience, Not the Wardrobe

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Both men and women may find that they are more approachable and a better match to others when they pay more attention to the experiences they can live through rather than the wardrobe they may put on.

One piece of advice that is common when you are meeting new people is that it’s important to look and feel your best. Knowing that you look good and that you are comfortable in your clothes (or skin) helps to increase your self-confidence. This increase in confidence is very visible to people around you. It’s in your body language and the way that you hold yourself. So, it would seem reasonable to look your best, in the best you can afford, to have the best confidence when you’re meeting new people.

But, move forward through that scenario just 10 minutes. Suddenly you are past the new suit, new outfit, new jewelry, or new shoes and on to a conversation that seems to go nowhere. That is not to say that you shouldn’t dress your best or be as confident as possible, but there is a lot to be said for having interesting and stimulating experiences to share with others.

What if you don’t have a couple extra thousand in the bank to fund that ticket for a safari? What if you don’t want to go it alone? What are your other choices to having experiences you can share without breaking the bank to do it?

The truth is, you can have your cake and eat it too, so to speak. In this instance, you can have the wardrobe and interesting experiences, all at the same time. Shop on a budget and search for the sales. I’ve often found designer clothing at second-hand stores that still have the tag on! Make your money go as far as it can go because, after all, you did spend your well-deserved time and energy to earn it in the first place.

Next, let’s look for experiences that don’t cost too much, that increase the potential you’ll grow as a person and that might also help others. Habitat for Humanity is a wonderful way to help others in your community, meet like-minded people, and get some sun and exercise–all at the same time. Search for their site online and check out the needs in your area. If you aren’t a dress and heels kind of woman, this is just the environment to meet a man who isn’t necessarily interested in black tie events and who is interested in building a strong community.

Walking tours of the local parks and recreation areas that include wildlife information help you to become the resident expert at wildlife and ‘reading’ the local landscape. You can meet people on these tours, make long-time friends, and get a bit of exercise too.

Read several books about a faraway land, get caught up on the politics of the region and then pitch in to help in a way that will make a difference in the lives of those less fortunate. Maybe you could start a campaign to help the children in this country, participate in a local fund raising event, or visit people from this country who live in your local community.

Walk-a-thons and Bike-a-thons are always fun, interesting, and help you to raise money for a worthy cause. You’ll meet fun people who are interested in helping as much as you are and may even develop a friendship that moves beyond the event. Local charity ministries always need more help to package boxes, run events, and serve their community.

Each of these experiences continues to help you to grow as a person and gives you interesting and creative stories you can tell to your special someone when the conversation starts to run out.

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